When dad died. for some years I had major emotional and psychological issues, understandably.. Mum struggled to be a single parent, especially with a ‘troubled’ teenage son: we certainly had our battles and confrontations. When I got ‘properly’ saved (as opposed to being a ‘christian’ because I’d gone to church all my life), everything with mum changed. It was a lovely relationship. When mum was hit with vascular dementia 11 years ago, it meant her mind ‘went’ overnight. I wanted to visit her as often as I could in the care home, even though she lived in West Cornwall. I committed to seeing her for at least a couple of days every six weeks, even though from the first visit she had no idea who I was (that remained until she joined dad – without doubt much to her joy – in March 2010). For four of those 5 years in care, I was based quite a lot of the time in the USA, so it was a long trip to see her, but I’m so glad that I did, as she’d really sacrificed her life to bring me up through those tough years, when she was in desperate grief herself. It was the least I could for her after her life of serving other people, especially me.
Being very aware that there are some situations where this might not be possible, for various reasons, I’d love to encourage the majority of who can do it, to really make the most of your parents….
I know I’ve talked about my dad often, he was a wonderfully special, Spirit-filled man, loved by everyone. It was 51 years ago today that he died, aged 41, when I was 12, I’d just got home from school…. the impact dad’s death had on me was immense.
And today, Friday 30th, I’m aware how much I still miss him: how much I’d love to sit and talk to him, listen to his wisdom, learn from his wonderful relationship with Jesus – and I’ve always wished that I could have talked to him about his experiences in the Second World War, he was a bomber pilot.
I know that he’d have been my best friend if he’d lived: I look forward to seeing him again when it’s my turn to go to where he’s enjoyed living for the last 51 years!